Your FIRST DATE Recipe

Hey man,

Most guys think a date means coffee and convo.

Nah.

A real date—a perfect date—is a straight-up funnel.

And you are going to love this plan that I’ll reveal right now,

Here’s how you do it right:

1. It starts with logistics.

You wanna make your date start smooth?

Then don’t set the date an hour from your place like an idiot.

Find a cozy cafe, chill park, or even an ice cream joint 10 – 15 mins from your house. Ideally walking distance.

And to  make it even better?
Have her meet you at your place first:

“There’s a cool spot near mine. Just park at my place, we’ll walk there.”

When she shows up, you’re like:

“Come in real quick, I’m just grabbing my stuff.”

The only purpose is to make it familiar real quick so she feels safe.

Now she’s already been inside your place. So later, when you pull her back, it doesn’t feel like a big deal.

Familiar = Safe = Easy pull.

2. Don’t hope for magic. Create it.

Forget that “if it’s meant to be” crap. That’s Disney nonsense.

You’re a man. You lead. You plan. You engineer.

Know where you’re taking her.
Know where you’ll sit (ALWAYS beside her).
Know what drink you’re ordering.
Know what excuse you’ll use to pull her back.

Like:

“You’ve never seen my book collection? Gotta show you sometime.”

Then later, when you say:

“Let’s head back—I’ll show you that bookshelf I was talking about.”

…it feels spontaneous, even though it was planned all along.

That’s called plausible deniability.

She doesn’t want to think, “I went to his place to hook up.”

She wants to think, “I just went to check out his place and one thing led to another.”

You’re giving her that out.

3. Touch early. Touch often.

When you see her, greet her like a man—not her HR manager.

Kiss on cheek. Fist bumps. Hand on her back. Casual arm touches. Guide her when walking.

You’re a man. She’s a woman. And she needs to feel that from the first minute.

Light touches on the arm, guiding her through the door, brushing your leg against hers while sitting…

That’s what builds sexual tension.

If you’re not touching her, guess what?

You’re her little buddy. Not her man.

4. Stack memories with micro-locations.

Here’s a sneaky trick:

One location = one memory.

Three mini-locations = “damn, we’ve done so much together.”

That’s how you kill the “we just met” objection.

Start at a Cafe. Walk to a bookstore. Sit on a bench nearby slurping ice cream.

Each spot = a new memory. And the more she remembers, the more she trusts you.

5. Escalate when she’s laughing. Not when it’s dead.

There’s this thing called Buying Temperature.

When she’s giggly, playful, touching you, teasing you—that’s your moment.

You go for the handhold. Or the kiss. Or the pull.

Never escalate when the vibe’s flat. That’s when you trigger her defenses.

Remember: what you feel, she feels. You’re calm, fun, confident? She’ll mirror it.

6. Always end on your terms.

If she’s not down to come back?

Cool. Don’t overstay. Just say:

“You’re trouble. Let’s continue this another night.”

Then plant the seed for Date #2:

“Next week I’m showing you that rooftop spot I told you about.”

Leave her wanting more. That’s the game.

Some Extra Sauce From Your Bro:

• Don’t ask: “Wanna come over?”
  Instead: “Come. We’re grabbing that b.”
  

• Sit beside her, never across. Makes things way more intimate.
  

• Give her a nickname or save your name as something bold in her phone: “Future Ex-Boyfriend.” It sticks.
  

• Don’t do dinner on the first date. She hasn’t earned that yet. Coffee, walk, bookstore, chill park—keep it simple.

• Plan the date beforehand.
  

If you’ve got any questions, reply to this email.

See you tomorrow,

AM